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WOMEN IN ISLAM VERSUS WOMEN
IN THE
JUDAEO-CHRISTIAN TRADITION:
By
Dr. Sherif Abdel Azeem
CONTENTS
1.
INTRODUCTION
2. EVE'S FAULT
?
3. EVE'S LEGACY
4. SHAMEFUL DAUGHTERS
?
5. FEMALE EDUCATION
?
6. UNCLEAN IMPURE
WOMAN ?
7. BEARING WITNESS
8. ADULTERY
9. VOWS
10. WIFE'S PROPERTY
?
11. DIVORCE
12. MOTHERS
13. FEMALE INHERITANCE
?
14. PLIGHT OF
WIDOWS
15. POLYGAMY
16. THE VEIL
17. EPILOGUE
1. INTRODUCTION
Five years ago, I read in the Toronto Star
issue of July 3, 1990 an article titled "Islam is not alone in patriarchal
doctrines", by Gwynne Dyer. The article described the furious reactions
of the participants of a conference on women and power held in Montreal
to the comments of the famous Egyptian feminist Dr. Nawal Saadawi. Her
"politically incorrect" statements included : "the most restrictive elements
towards women can be found first in Judaism in the Old Testament then in
Christianity and then in the Quran"; "all religions are patriarchal because
they stem from patriarchal societies"; and "veiling of women is not a specifically
Islamic practice but an ancient cultural heritage with analogies in sister
religions". The participants could not bear sitting around while their
faiths were being equated with Islam. Thus, Dr. Saadawi received a barrage
of criticism. "Dr. Saadawi's comments are unacceptable. Her answers reveal
a lack of understanding about other people's faiths," declared Bernice
Dubois of the World Movement of Mothers. "I must protest" said panellist
Alice Shalvi of Israel women's network, "there is no conception of the
veil in Judaism." The article attributed these furious protests to the
strong tendency in the West to scapegoat Islam for practices that are just
as much a part of the West's own cultural heritage. "Christian and Jewish
feminists were not going to sit around being discussed in the same category
as those wicked Muslims," wrote Gwynne Dyer.
I was not surprised that the conference
participants had held such a negative view of Islam, especially when women's
issues were involved. In the West, Islam is believed to be the symbol of
the subordination of women par excellence. In order to understand
how firm this belief is, it is enough to mention that the Minister of Education
in France, the land of Voltaire, has recently ordered the expulsion of
all young Muslim women wearing the veil from French schools!1 A young Muslim
student wearing a headscarf is denied her right of education in France,
while a Catholic student wearing a cross or a Jewish student wearing a
skullcap is not. The scene of French policemen preventing young Muslim
women wearing headscarves from entering their high school is unforgettable.
It inspires the memories of another equally disgraceful scene of Governor
George Wallace of Alabama in 1962 standing in front of a school gate trying
to block the entrance of black students in order to prevent the desegregation
of Alabama's schools. The difference between the two scenes is that the
black students had the sympathy of so many people in the U.S. and in the
whole world. President Kennedy sent the U.S. National Guard to force the
entry of the black students. The Muslim girls, on the other hand, received
no help from any one. Their cause seems to have very little sympathy either
inside or outside France. The reason is the widespread misunderstanding
and fear of anything Islamic in the world today.
What intrigued me the most about the Montreal
conference was one question : Were the statements made by Saadawi, or any
of her critics, factual ? In other words, do Judaism, Christianity, and
Islam have the same conception of women? Are they different in their conceptions
? Do Judaism and Christianity , truly, offer women a better treatment than
Islam does? What is the Truth?
It is not easy to search for and find answers
to these difficult questions. The first difficulty is that one has to be
fair and objective or, at least, do one's utmost to be so. This is what
Islam teaches. The Quran has instructed Muslims to say the truth even if
those who are very close to them do not like it: "Whenever you speak, speak
justly, even if a near relative is concerned" (6:152) "O you who believe
stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses to Allah, even as against yourselves,
or your parents or your kin, and whether it be (against) rich or poor"
(4:135).
The other great difficulty is the overwhelming
breadth of the subject. Therefore, during the last few years, I have spent
many hours reading the Bible, The Encyclopedia of Religion, and the Encyclopedia
Judaic searching for answers. I have also read several books discussing
the position of women in different religions written by scholars, apologists,
and critics. The material presented in the following chapters represents
the important findings of this humble research. I don't claim to be absolutely
objective. This is beyond my limited capacity. All I can say is that I
have been trying, throughout this research, to approach the Quranic ideal
of "speaking justly".
I would like to emphasize in this introduction
that my purpose for this study is not to denigrate Judaism or Christianity.
As Muslims, we believe in the divine origins of both. No one can be a Muslim
without believing in Moses and Jesus as great prophets of God. My goal
is only to vindicate Islam and pay a tribute, long overdue in the West,
to the final truthful Message from God to the human race. I would also
like to emphasize that I concerned myself only with Doctrine. That is,
my concern is, mainly, the position of women in the three religions as
it appears in their original sources not as practiced by their millions
of followers in the world today. Therefore, most of the evidence cited
comes from the Quran, the sayings of Prophet Muhammad, the Bible, the Talmud,
and the sayings of some of the most influential Church Fathers whose views
have contributed immeasurably to defining and shaping Christianity. This
interest in the sources relates to the fact that understanding a certain
religion from the attitudes and the behavior of some of its nominal followers
is misleading. Many people confuse culture with religion, many others do
not know what their religious books are saying, and many others do not
even care.
2. EVE'S
FAULT ?
The three religions agree on one basic
fact: Both women and men are created by God, The Creator of the whole universe.
However, disagreement starts soon after the creation of the first man,
Adam, and the first woman, Eve. The Judaeo-Christian conception of the
creation of Adam and Eve is narrated in detail in Genesis 2:4-3:24. God
prohibited both of them from eating the fruits of the forbidden tree. The
serpent seduced Eve to eat from it and Eve, in turn, seduced Adam to eat
with her. When God rebuked Adam for what he did, he put all the blame on
Eve, "The woman you put here with me --she gave me some fruit from the
tree and I ate it." Consequently, God said to Eve:
"I will greatly increase your pains
in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire
will be for your husband and he will rule over you."
To Adam He said:
"Because you listened to your wife
and ate from the tree .... Cursed is the ground because of you; through
painful toil you will eat of it all the days of your life..."
The Islamic conception of the first creation
is found in several places in the Quran, for example:
"O Adam dwell with your wife in the
Garden and enjoy as you wish but approach not this tree or you run into
harm and transgression. Then Satan whispered to them in order to reveal
to them their shame that was hidden from them and he said: 'Your Lord only
forbade you this tree lest you become angels or such beings as live forever.'
And he swore to them both that he was their sincere adviser. So by deceit
he brought them to their fall: when they tasted the tree their shame became
manifest to them and they began to sew together the leaves of the Garden
over their bodies. And their Lord called unto them: 'Did I not forbid you
that tree and tell you that Satan was your avowed enemy?' They said: 'Our
Lord we have wronged our own souls and if You forgive us not and bestow
not upon us Your Mercy, we shall certainly be lost' " (7:19:23).
A careful look into the two accounts of
the story of the Creation reveals some essential differences. The Quran,
contrary to the Bible, places equal blame on both Adam and Eve for their
mistake. Nowhere in the Quran can one find even the slightest hint that
Eve tempted Adam to eat from the tree or even that she had eaten before
him. Eve in the Quran is no temptress, no seducer, and no deceiver. Moreover,
Eve is not to be blamed for the pains of childbearing. God, according to
the Quran, punishes no one for another's faults. Both Adam and Eve committed
a sin and then asked God for forgiveness and He forgave them both.
3. EVE'S
LEGACY
The image of Eve as temptress in the Bible
has resulted in an extremely negative impact on women throughout the Judea-Christian
tradition. All women were believed to have inherited from their mother,
the Biblical Eve, both her guilt and her guile. Consequently, they were
all untrustworthy, morally inferior, and wicked. Menstruation, pregnancy,
and childbearing were considered the just punishment for the eternal guilt
of the cursed female sex. In order to appreciate how negative the impact
of the Biblical Eve was on all her female descendants we have to look at
the writings of some of the most important Jews and Christians of all time.
Let us start with the Old Testament and look at excerpts from what is called
the Wisdom Literature in which we find:
"I find more bitter than death the
woman who is a snare, whose heart is a trap and whose hands are chains.
The man who pleases God will escape her, but the sinner she will ensnare....while
I was still searching but not finding, I found one upright man among a
thousand but not one upright woman among them all" (Ecclesiastes 7:26-28).
In another part of the Hebrew literature
which is found in the Catholic Bible we read:
"No wickedness comes anywhere near
the wickedness of a woman.....Sin began with a woman and thanks to her
we all must die" (Ecclesiasticus 25:19,24).
Jewish Rabbis listed nine curses inflicted
on women as a result of the Fall:
"To the woman He gave nine curses
and death: the burden of the blood of menstruation and the blood of virginity;
the burden of pregnancy; the burden of childbirth; the burden of bringing
up the children; her head is covered as one in mourning; she pierces her
ear like a permanent slave or slave girl who serves her master; she is
not to be believed as a witness; and after everything--death."
2
To the present day, orthodox Jewish men
in their daily morning prayer recite "Blessed be God King of the universe
that Thou has not made me a woman." The women, on the other hand, thank
God every morning for "making me according to Thy will." 3 Another prayer
found in many Jewish prayer books: "Praised be God that he has not created
me a gentile. Praised be God that he has not created me a woman. Praised
be God that he has not created me an ignoramus." 4
The Biblical Eve has played a far bigger
role in Christianity than in Judaism. Her sin has been pivotal to the whole
Christian faith because the Christian conception of the reason for the
mission of Jesus Christ on Earth stems from Eve's disobedience to God.
She had sinned and then seduced Adam to follow her suit. Consequently,
God expelled both of them from Heaven to Earth, which had been cursed because
of them. They bequeathed their sin, which had not been forgiven by God,
to all their descendants and, thus, all humans are born in sin. In order
to purify human beings from their 'original sin', God had to sacrifice
Jesus, who is considered to be the Son of God, on the cross. Therefore,
Eve is responsible for her own mistake, her husband's sin, the original
sin of all humanity, and the death of the Son of God. In other words, one
woman acting on her own caused the fall of humanity. 5 What about her daughters?
They are sinners like her and have to be treated as such. Listen to the
severe tone of St. Paul in the New Testament:
"A woman should learn in quietness
and full submission. I don't permit a woman to teach or to have authority
over a man; she must be silent. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And
Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became
a sinner" (I Timothy 2:11-14).
St. Tertullian was even more blunt than
St. Paul, while he was talking to his 'best beloved sisters' in the faith,
he said: 6
"Do you not know that you are each
an Eve? The sentence of God on this sex of yours lives in this age: the
guilt must of necessity live too. You are the Devil's gateway: You are
the unsealer of the forbidden tree: You are the first deserter of the divine
law: You are she who persuaded him whom the devil was not valiant enough
to attack. You destroyed so easily God's image, man. On account of your
desert even the Son of God had to die."
St. Augustine was faithful to the legacy
of his predecessors, he wrote to a friend:
"What is the difference whether it
is in a wife or a mother, it is still Eve the temptress that we must beware
of in any woman......I fail to see what use woman can be to man, if one
excludes the function of bearing children."
Centuries later, St. Thomas Aquinas still
considered women as defective:
"As regards the individual nature,
woman is defective and misbegotten, for the active force in the male seed
tends to the production of a perfect likeness in the masculine sex; while
the production of woman comes from a defect in the active force or from
some material indisposition, or even from some external influence."
Finally, the renowned reformer Martin Luther
could not see any benefit from a woman but bringing into the world as many
children as possible regardless of any side effects:
"If they become tired or even die,
that does not matter. Let them die in childbirth, that's why they are there"
Again and again all women are denigrated
because of the image of Eve the temptress, thanks to the Genesis account.
To sum up, the Judea-Christian conception of women has been poisoned by
the belief in the sinful nature of Eve and her female offspring.
If we now turn our attention to what the
Quran has to say about women, we will soon realize that the Islamic conception
of women is radically different from the Judea-Christian one. Let the
Quran speak for itself:
"For Muslim men and women, for believing
men and women, for devout men and women, for true men and women, for men
and women who are patient, for men and women who humble themselves, for
men and women who give in charity, for men and women who fast, for men
and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much
in Allah's praise-- For them all has Allah prepared forgiveness and great
reward" (33:35).
"The believers, men and women, are
protectors, one of another: they enjoin what is just, and forbid what is
evil, they observe regular prayers, practise regular charity, and obey
Allah and His Messenger. On them will Allah pour His Mercy: for Allah is
Exalted in power, Wise" (9:71).
"And their Lord answered them: Truly
I will never cause to be lost the work of any of you, Be you a male or
female, you are members one of another" (3:195).
"Whoever works evil will not be requited
but by the like thereof, and whoever works a righteous deed -whether man
or woman- and is a believer- such will enter the Garden of bliss" (40:40).
"Whoever works righteousness, man
or woman, and has faith, verily to him/her we will give a new life that
is good and pure, and we will bestow on such their reward according to
the best of their actions" (16:97).
It is clear that the Quranic view of women
is no different than that of men. They, both, are God's creatures whose
sublime goal on earth is to worship their Lord, do righteous deeds, and
avoid evil and they, both, will be assessed accordingly. The Quran never
mentions that the woman is the devil's gateway or that she is a deceiver
by nature. The Quran, also, never mentions that man is God's image; all
men and all women are his creatures, that is all. According to the Quran,
a woman's role on earth is not limited only to childbirth. She is required
to do as many good deeds as any other man is required to do. The Quran
never says that no upright women have ever existed. To the contrary, the
Quran has instructed all the believers, women as well as men, to follow
the example of those ideal women such as the Virgin Mary and the Pharaoh's
wife:
"And Allah sets forth, As an example
to those who believe, the wife of Pharaoh: Behold she said: 'O my lord
build for me, in nearness to you, a mansion in the Garden, and save me
from Pharaoh and his doings and save me from those who do wrong.' And Mary
the daughter of Imran who guarded her chastity and We breathed into her
body of Our spirit; and she testified to the truth of the words of her
Lord and of His revelations and was one of the devout" (66:11-13).
4. SHAMEFUL
DAUGHTERS ?
In fact, the difference between the Biblical
and the Quranic attitude towards the female sex starts as soon as a female
is born. For example, the Bible states that the period of the mother's
ritual impurity is twice as long if a girl is born than if a boy is (Lev.
12:2-5). The Catholic Bible states explicitly that:
"The birth of a daughter is a loss"
(Ecclesiasticus 22:3).
In contrast to this shocking statement,
boys receive special praise:
"A man who educates his son will
be the envy of his enemy." (Ecclesiasticus 30:3)
Jewish Rabbis made it an obligation on
Jewish men to produce offspring in order to propagate the race. At the
same time, they did not hide their clear preference for male children :
"It is well for those whose children are male but ill for those whose are
female", "At the birth of a boy, all are joyful...at the birth of a girl
all are sorrowful", and "When a boy comes into the world, peace comes into
the world... When a girl comes, nothing comes."7
A daughter is considered a painful burden,
a potential source of shame to her father:
"Your daughter is headstrong? Keep
a sharp look-out that she does not make you the laughing stock of your
enemies, the talk of the town, the object of common gossip, and put you
to public shame" (Ecclesiasticus 42:11).
"Keep a headstrong daughter under
firm control, or she will abuse any indulgence she receives. Keep a strict
watch on her shameless eye, do not be surprised if she disgraces you" (Ecclesiasticus
26:10-11).
It was this very same idea of treating
daughters as sources of shame that led the pagan Arabs, before the advent
of Islam, to practice female infanticide. The Quran severely condemned
this heinous practice:
"When news is brought to one of them
of the birth of a female child, his face darkens and he is filled with
inward grief. With shame does he hide himself from his people because of
the bad news he has had! Shall he retain her on contempt or bury her in
the dust? Ah! what an evil they decide on?" (16:59).
It has to be mentioned that this sinister
crime would have never stopped in Arabia were it not for the power of the
scathing terms the Quran used to condemn this practice (16:59, 43:17, 81:8-9).
The Quran, moreover, makes no distinction between boys and girls. In contrast
to the Bible, the Quran considers the birth of a female as a gift and a
blessing from God, the same as the birth of a male. The Quran even mentions
the gift of the female birth first:
" To Allah belongs the dominion of
the heavens and the earth. He creates what He wills. He bestows female
children to whomever He wills and bestows male children to whomever He
wills" (42:49).
5. FEMALE
EDUCATION ?
The difference between the Biblical and
the Quranic conceptions of women is not limited to the newly born female,
it extends far beyond that. Let us compare their attitudes towards a female
trying to learn her religion. The heart of Judaism is the Torah, the law.
However, according to the Talmud, "women are exempt from the study of the
Torah." Some Jewish Rabbis firmly declared "Let the words of Torah rather
be destroyed by fire than imparted to women", and "Whoever teaches his
daughter Torah is as though he taught her obscenity"8
The attitude of St. Paul in the New Testament
is not brighter:
"As in all the congregations of the
saints, women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed
to speak, but must be in submission as the law says. If they want to inquire
about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is
disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church." (I Corinthians 14:34-35)
How can a woman learn if she is not allowed
to speak? How can a woman grow intellectually if she is obliged to be in
a state of full submission? How can she broaden her horizons if her one
and only source of information is her husband at home?
Now, to be fair, we should ask: is the
Quranic position any different? One short story narrated in the Quran sums
its position up concisely. Khawlah was a Muslim woman whose husband Aws
pronounced this statement at a moment of anger: "You are to me as the back
of my mother." This was held by pagan Arabs to be a statement of divorce
which freed the husband from any conjugal responsibility but did not leave
the wife free to leave the husband's home or to marry another man. Having
heard these words from her husband, Khawlah was in a miserable situation.
She went straight to the Prophet of Islam to plead her case. The Prophet
was of the opinion that she should be patient since there seemed to be
no way out. Khawla kept arguing with the Prophet in an attempt to save
her suspended marriage. Shortly, the Quran intervened; Khawla's plea was
accepted. The divine verdict abolished this iniquitous custom. One full
chapter (Chapter 58) of the Quran whose title is "Almujadilah" or "The
woman who is arguing" was named after this incident:
"Allah has heard and accepted the
statement of the woman who pleads with you (the Prophet) concerning her
husband and carries her complaint to Allah, and Allah hears the arguments
between both of you for Allah hears and sees all things...." (58:1).
A woman in the Quranic conception has the
right to argue even with the Prophet of Islam himself. No one has the right
to instruct her to be silent. She is under no obligation to consider her
husband the one and only reference in matters of law and religion.
6. UNCLEAN
IMPURE WOMAN ?
Jewish laws and regulations concerning
menstruating women are extremely restrictive. The Old Testament considers
any menstruating woman as unclean and impure. Moreover, her impurity "infects"
others as well. Anyone or anything she touches becomes unclean for a day:
"When a woman has her regular flow
of blood, the impurity of her monthly period will last seven days, and
anyone who touches her will be unclean till evening. Anything she lies
on during her period will be unclean, and anything she sits on will be
unclean. Whoever touches her bed must wash his clothes and bathe with water,
and he will be unclean till evening. Whoever touches anything she sits
on must wash his clothes and bathe with water, and he will be unclean till
evening. Whether it is the bed or anything she was sitting on, when anyone
touches it, he will be unclean till evening" (Lev. 15:19-23).
Due to her "contaminating" nature, a menstruating
woman was sometimes "banished" in order to avoid any possibility of any
contact with her. She was sent to a special house called "the house of
uncleanness" for the whole period of her impurity. 9 The Talmud considers
a menstruating woman "fatal" even without any physical contact:
"Our Rabbis taught:....if a menstruant
woman passes between two (men), if it is at the beginning of her menses
she will slay one of them, and if it is at the end of her menses she will
cause strife between them" (bPes. 111a.)
Furthermore, the husband of a
monstrous
woman was forbidden to enter the synagogue if he had been made unclean
by her even by the dust under her feet. A priest whose wife, daughter,
or mother was menstruating could not recite priestly blessing in the synagogue.
10 No wonder many Jewish women still refer to menstruation as "the curse."
11
Islam does not consider a menstruating
woman to possess any kind of "contagious uncleanness". She is neither "untouchable"
nor "cursed." She practices her normal life with only one restriction:
A married couple are not allowed to have sexual intercourse during the
period of menstruation. Any other physical contact between them is permissible.
7. BEARING
WITNESS
Another issue in which the Quran and the
Bible disagree is the issue of women bearing witness. It is true that the
Quran has instructed the believers dealing in financial transactions to
get two male witnesses or one male and two females (2:282). However, it
is also true that the Quran in other situations accepts the testimony of
a woman as equal to that of a man. In fact the woman's testimony can even
invalidate the man's. If a man accuses his wife of unchastity, he is required
by the Quran to solemnly swear five times as evidence of the wife's guilt.
If the wife denies and swears similarly five times, she is not considered
guilty and in either case the marriage is dissolved (24:6-11).
On the other hand, women were not allowed
to bear witness in early Jewish society. 12 The Rabbis counted women's
not being able to bear witness among the nine curses inflicted upon all
women because of the Fall (see the "Eve's Legacy" section). Women in today's
Israel are not allowed to give evidence in Rabbinical courts. 13 The Rabbis
justify why women cannot bear witness by citing Genesis 18:9-16, where
it is stated that Sara, Abraham's wife had lied. The Rabbis use this incident
as evidence that women are unqualified to bear witness. It should be noted
here that this story narrated in Genesis 18:9-16 has been mentioned more
than once in the Quran without any hint of any lies by Sara (11:69-74,
51:24-30). In the Christian West, both ecclesiastical and civil law debarred
women from giving testimony until late last century. 14
If a man accuses his wife of un-chastity,
her testimony will not be considered at all according to the Bible. The
accused wife has to be subjected to a trial by ordeal. In this trial, the
wife faces a complex and humiliating ritual which was supposed to prove
her guilt or innocence (Num. 5:11-31). If she is found guilty after this
ordeal, she will be sentenced to death. If she is found not guilty, her
husband will be innocent of any wrongdoing.
Besides, if a man takes a woman as a wife
and then accuses her of not being a virgin, her own testimony will not
count. Her parents had to bring evidence of her virginity before the elders
of the town. If the parents could not prove the innocence of their daughter,
she would be stoned to death on her father's doorsteps. If the parents
were able to prove her innocence, the husband would only be fined one hundred
shekels of silver and he could not divorce his wife as long as he lived:
"If a man takes a wife and, after
lying with her, dislikes her and slanders her and gives her a bad name,
saying, 'I married this woman, but when I approached her, I did not find
proof of her virginity,' then the girl's father and mother shall bring
proof that she was a virgin to the town elders at the gate. The girl's
father will say to the elders, 'I gave my daughter in marriage to this
man, but he dislikes her. Now he has slandered her and said I did not find
your daughter to be a virgin. But here is the proof of my daughter's virginity.'
Then her parents shall display the cloth before the elders of the town,
and the elders shall take the man and punish him. They shall fine him a
hundred shekels of silver and give them to the girl's father, because this
man has given an Israelite virgin a bad name. She shall continue to be
his wife; he must not divorce her as long as he lives. If, however, the
charge is true and no proof of the girl's virginity can be found, she shall
be brought to the door of her father's house and there the men of the town
shall stone her to death. She has done a disgraceful thing in Israel by
being promiscuous while still in her father's house. You must purge the
evil from among you." (Deuteronomy 22:13-21)
8. ADULTERY
Adultery is considered a sin in all religions.
The Bible decrees the death sentence for both the adulterer and the adulteress
(Lev. 20:10). Islam also equally punishes both the adulterer and the adulteress
(24:2). However, the Quranic definition of adultery is very different from
the Biblical definition. Adultery, according to the Quran, is the involvement
of a married man or a married woman in an extramarital affair. The Bible
only considers the extramarital affair of a married woman as adultery (Leviticus
20:10, Deuteronomy 22:22, Proverbs 6:20-7:27).
"If a man is found sleeping with
another man's wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must
die. You must purge the evil from Israel" (Deut. 22:22).
"If a man commits adultery with another
man's wife both the adulterer and the adulteress must be put to death"
(Lev. 20:10).
According to the Biblical definition, if
a married man sleeps with an unmarried woman, this is not considered a
crime at all. The married man who has extramarital affairs with unmarried
women is not an adulterer and the unmarried women involved with him are
not adulteresses. The crime of adultery is committed only when a man, whether
married or single, sleeps with a married woman. In this case the man is
considered adulterer, even if he is not married, and the woman is considered
adulteress. In short, adultery is any illicit sexual intercourse involving
a married woman. The extramarital affair of a married man is not per se
a crime in the Bible. Why is the dual moral standard? According to Encyclopedia
Judaic, the wife was considered to be the husband's possession and adultery
constituted a violation of the husband's exclusive right to her; the wife
as the husband's possession had no such right to him. 15 That is, if a
man had sexual intercourse with a married woman, he would be violating
the property of another man and, thus, he should be punished.
To the present day in Israel, if a married
man indulges in an extramarital affair with an unmarried woman, his children
by that woman are considered legitimate. But, if a married woman has an
affair with another man, whether married or not married, her children by
that man are not only illegitimate but they are considered bastards and
are forbidden to marry any other Jews except converts and other bastards.
This ban is handed down to the children's descendants for 10 generations
until the taint of adultery is presumably weakened. 16
The Quran, on the other hand, never considers
any woman to be the possession of any man. The Quran eloquently describes
the relationship between the spouses by saying:
" And among His signs is that He
created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility
with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: verily in
that are signs for those who reflect" (30:21).
This is the Quranic conception of marriage:
love, mercy, and tranquility, not possession and double standards.
9. VOWS
According to the Bible, a man must
fulfill
any vows he might make to God. He must not break his word. On the other
hand, a woman's vow is not necessarily binding on her. It has to be approved
by her father, if she is living in his house, or by her husband, if she
is married. If a father/husband does not endorse his daughter's/wife's
vows, all pledges made by her become null and void:
"But if her father forbids her when
he hears about it, none of her vows or the pledges by which she obligated
herself will stand ....Her husband may confirm or nullify any vow she makes
or any sworn pledge to deny herself" (Num. 30:2-15)
Why is it that a woman's word is not binding
per se ? The answer is simple: because she is owned by her father, before
marriage, or by her husband after marriage. The father's control over his
daughter was absolute to the extent that, should he wish, he could sell
her! It is indicated in the writings of the Rabbis that: "The man may sell
his daughter, but the woman may not sell her daughter; the man may betroth
his daughter, but the woman may not betroth her daughter." 17 The Rabbinic
literature also indicates that marriage represents the transfer of control
from the father to the husband: "betrothal, making a woman the sacrosanct
possession--the inviolable property-- of the husband..." Obviously, if
the woman is considered to be the property of someone else, she cannot
make any pledges that her owner does not approve of.
It is of interest to note that this Biblical
instruction concerning women's vows has had negative repercussions on Judea-Christian
women till early in this century. A married woman in the Western world
had no legal status. No act of hers was of any legal value. Her husband
could repudiate any contract, bargain, or deal she had made. Women in the
West (the largest heir of the Judea-Christian legacy) were held unable
to make a binding contract because they were practically owned by someone
else. Western women had suffered for almost two thousand years because
of the Biblical attitude towards women's position vis-à-vis their
fathers and husbands. 18
In Islam, the vow of every Muslim, male
or female, is binding on him/her. No one has the power to repudiate the
pledges of anyone else. Failure to keep a solemn oath, made by a man or
a woman, has to be expiated as indicated in the Quran:
"He [God] will call you to account
for your deliberate oaths: for expiation, feed ten indigent persons, on
a scale of the average for the food of your families; Or clothe them; or
give a slave his freedom. If that is beyond your means, fast for three
days. That is the expiation for the oaths you have sworn. But keep your
oaths" (5:89).
Companions of the Prophet Muhammad, men
and women, used to present their oath of allegiance to him personally.
Women, as well as men, would independently come to him and pledge their
oaths:
"O Prophet, When believing women
come to you to make a covenant with you that they will not associate in
worship anything with God, nor steal, nor fornicate, nor kill their own
children, nor slander anyone, nor disobey you in any just matter, then
make a covenant with them and pray to God for the forgiveness of their
sins. Indeed God is Forgiving and most Merciful" (60:12).
A man could not swear the oath on behalf
of his daughter or his wife. Nor could a man repudiate the oath made by
any of his female relatives.
10. WIFE'S
PROPERTY ?
The three religions share an unshakeable
belief in the importance of marriage and family life. They also agree on
the leadership of the husband over the family. Nevertheless, blatant differences
do exist among the three religions with respect to the limits of this leadership.
The Judie-Christian tradition, unlike Islam, virtually extends the leadership
of the husband into ownership of his wife.
The Jewish tradition regarding the husband's
role towards his wife stems from the conception that he owns her as he
owns his slave. 19 This conception has been the reason behind the double
standard in the laws of adultery and behind the husband's ability to annul
his wife's vows. This conception has also been responsible for denying
the wife any control over her property or her earnings. As soon as a Jewish
woman got married, she completely lost any control over her property and
earnings to her husband. Jewish Rabbis asserted the husband's right to
his wife's property as a corollary of his possession of her: "Since one
has come into the possession of the woman does it not follow that he should
come into the possession of her property too?", and "Since he has acquired
the woman should he not acquire also her property?" 20 Thus, marriage caused
the richest woman to become practically penniless. The Talmud describes
the financial situation of a wife as follows:
"How can a woman have anything; whatever
is hers belongs to her husband? What is his is his and what is hers is
also his...... Her earnings and what she may find in the streets are also
his. The household articles, even the crumbs of bread on the table, are
his. Should she invite a guest to her house and feed him, she would be
stealing from her husband..." (San. 71a, Git. 62a)
The fact of the matter is that the property
of a Jewish female was meant to attract suitors. A Jewish family would
assign their daughter a share of her father's estate to be used as a dowry
in case of marriage. It was this dowry that made Jewish daughters an unwelcome
burden to their fathers. The father had to raise his daughter for years
and then prepare for her marriage by providing a large dowry. Thus, a girl
in a Jewish family was a liability and no asset. 21 This liability explains
why the birth of a daughter was not celebrated with joy in the old Jewish
society (see the "Shameful Daughters?" section). The dowry was the wedding
gift presented to the groom under terms of tenancy. The husband would act
as the practical owner of the dowry but he could not sell it. The bride
would lose any control over the dowry at the moment of marriage. Moreover,
she was expected to work after marriage and all her earnings had to go
to her husband in return for her maintenance which was his obligation.
She could regain her property only in two cases: divorce or her husband's
death. Should she die first, he would inherit her property. In the case
of the husband's death, the wife could regain her pre-marital property
but she was not entitled to inherit any share in her deceased husband's
own property. It has to be added that the groom also had to present a marriage
gift to his bride, yet again he was the practical owner of this gift as
long as they were married. 22
Christianity, until recently, has followed
the same Jewish tradition. Both religious and civil authorities in the
Christian Roman Empire (after Constantine) required a property agreement
as a condition for recognizing the marriage. Families offered their daughters
increasing dowries and, as a result, men tended to marry earlier while
families postponed their daughters' marriages until later than had been
customary. 23 Under Canon law, a wife was entitled to restitution of her
dowry if the marriage was annulled unless she was guilty of adultery. In
this case, she forfeited her right to the dowry which remained in her husband's
hands. 24 Under Canon and civil law a married woman in Christian Europe
and America had lost her property rights until late nineteenth and early
twentieth centuries. For example, women's rights under English law were
compiled and published in 1632. These 'rights' included: "That which the
husband hath is his own. That which the wife hath is the husband's." 25
The wife not only lost her property upon marriage, she lost her personality
as well. No act of her was of legal value. Her husband could repudiate
any sale or gift made by her as being of no binding legal value. The person
with whom she had any contract was held as a criminal for participating
in a fraud. Moreover, she could not sue or be sued in her own name, nor
could she sue her own husband. 26 A married woman was practically treated
as an infant in the eyes of the law. The wife simply belonged to her husband
and therefore she lost her property, her legal personality, and her family
name. 27
Islam, since the seventh century C.E.,
has granted married women the independent personality which the Judea-Christian
West had deprived them until very recently. In Islam, the bride and her
family are under no obligation whatsoever to present a gift to the groom.
The girl in a Muslim family is no liability. A woman is so dignified by
Islam that she does not need to present gifts in order to attract potential
husbands. It is the groom who must present the bride with a marriage gift.
This gift is considered her property and neither the groom nor the bride's
family have any share in or control over it. In some Muslim societies today,
a marriage gift of a hundred thousand dollars in diamonds is not unusual.
28 The bride retains her marriage gifts even if she is later divorced.
The husband is not allowed any share in his wife's property except what
she offers him with her free consent. 29 The Quran has stated its position
on this issue quite clearly:
"And give the women (on marriage)
their dower as a free gift; but if they, Of their own good pleasure, remit
any part of it to you, take it and enjoy it with right good cheer" (4:4)
The wife's property and earnings are under
her full control and for her use alone since her, and the children's, maintenance
is her husband's responsibility. 30 No matter how rich the wife might be,
she is not obliged to act as a co-provider for the family unless she herself
voluntarily chooses to do so. Spouses do inherit from one another. Moreover,
a married woman in Islam retains her independent legal personality and
her family name. 31 An American judge once commented on the rights of Muslim
women saying: " A Muslim girl may marry ten times, but her individuality
is not absorbed by that of her various husbands. She is a solar planet
with a name and legal personality of her own." 32
11. DIVORCE
The three religions have remarkable differences
in their attitudes towards divorce. Christianity abhors divorce altogether.
The New Testament unequivocally advocates the indissolubility of marriage.
It is attributed to Jesus to have said, "But I tell you that anyone who
divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become
adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery"
(Matthew 5:32). This uncompromising ideal is, without a doubt, unrealistic.
It assumes a state of moral perfection that human societies have never
achieved. When a couple realizes that their married life is beyond repair,
a ban on divorce will not do them any good. Forcing ill-mated couples to
remain together against their wills is neither effective nor reasonable.
No wonder the whole Christian world has been obliged to sanction divorce.
Judaism, on the other hand, allows divorce
even without any cause. The Old Testament gives the husband the right to
divorce his wife even if he just dislikes her:
"If a man marries a woman who becomes
displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he
writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from
his house, and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another
man, and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of
divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, then
her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again
after she has been defiled" (Deut. 24:1-4).
The above verses have caused some considerable
debate among Jewish scholars because of their disagreement over the interpretation
of the words "displeasing", "indecency", and "dislikes" mentioned in the
verses. The Talmud records their different opinions:
"The school of Shammai held that
a man should not divorce his wife unless he has found her guilty of some
sexual misconduct, while the school of Hillel say he may divorce her even
if she has merely spoiled a dish for him. Rabbi Akiba says he may divorce
her even if he simply finds another woman more beautiful than she" (Gittin
90a-b).
The New Testament follows the Shammaites
opinion while Jewish law has followed the opinion of the Hillelites and
R. Akiba. 33 Since the Hillelites view prevailed, it became the unbroken
tradition of Jewish law to give the husband freedom to divorce his wife
without any cause at all. The Old Testament not only gives the husband
the right to divorce his "displeasing" wife, it considers divorcing a "bad
wife" an obligation:
"A bad wife brings humiliation, downcast
looks, and a wounded heart. Slack of hand and weak of knee is the man whose
wife fails to make him happy. Woman is the origin of sin, and it is through
her that we all die. Do not leave a leaky cistern to drip or allow a bad
wife to say what she likes. If she does not accept your control, divorce
her and send her away" (Ecclesiasticus 25:25).
The Talmud has recorded several specific
actions by wives which obliged their husbands to divorce them: "If she
ate in the street, if she drank greedily in the street, if she suckled
in the street, in every case Rabbi Meir says that she must leave her husband"
(Git. 89a). The Talmud has also made it mandatory to divorce a barren wife
(who bore no children in a period of ten years): "Our Rabbis taught: If
a man took a wife and lived with her for ten years and she bore no child,
he shall divorce her" (Yeb. 64a).
Wives, on the other hand, cannot initiate
divorce under Jewish law. A Jewish wife, however, could claim the right
to a divorce before a Jewish court provided that a strong reason exists.
Very few grounds are provided for the wife to make a claim for a divorce.
These grounds include: A husband with physical defects or skin disease,
a husband not fulfilling his conjugal responsibilities, etc. The
Court might support the wife's claim to a divorce but it cannot dissolve
the marriage. Only the husband can dissolve the marriage by giving his
wife a bill of divorce. The Court could scourge, fine, imprison, and excommunicate
him to force him to deliver the necessary bill of divorce to his wife.
However, if the husband is stubborn enough, he can refuse to grant his
wife a divorce and keep her tied to him indefinitely. Worse still, he can
desert her without granting her a divorce and leave her unmarried and un-divorced.
He can marry another woman or even live with any single woman out of wedlock
and have children from her (these children are considered legitimate under
Jewish law). The deserted wife, on the other hand, cannot marry any other
man since she is still legally married and she cannot live with any other
man because she will be considered an adulteress and her children from
this union will be illegitimate for ten generations. A woman in such a
position is called an agunah (chained woman). 34 In the United States today
there are approximately 1000 to 1500 Jewish women who are agunot (plural
for agunah), while in Israel their number might be as high as 16000. Husbands
may extort thousands of dollars from their trapped wives in exchange for
a Jewish divorce. 35
Islam occupies the middle ground between
Christianity and Judaism with respect to divorce. Marriage in Islam is
a sanctified bond that should not be broken except for compelling reasons.
Couples are instructed to pursue all possible remedies whenever their marriages
are in danger. Divorce is not to be resorted to except when there is no
other way out. In a nutshell, Islam recognizes divorce, yet it discourages
it by all means. Let us focus on the recognition side first. Islam does
recognize the right of both partners to end their matrimonial relationship.
Islam gives the husband the right for Talaq (divorce). Moreover, Islam,
unlike Judaism, grants the wife the right to dissolve the marriage through
what is known as Khula'. 36 If the husband dissolves the marriage by divorcing
his wife, he cannot retrieve any of the marriage gifts he has given her.
The Quran explicitly prohibits the divorcing husbands from taking back
their marriage gifts no matter how expensive or valuable these gifts might
be:
"But if you decide to take one wife
in place of another, even if you had given the latter a whole treasure
for dower, take not the least bit of it back; Would you take it by slander
and a manifest wrong?" (4:20).
In the case of the wife choosing to end
the marriage, she may return the marriage gifts to her husband. Returning
the marriage gifts in this case is a fair compensation for the husband
who is keen to keep his wife while she chooses to leave him. The Quran
has instructed Muslim men not to take back any of the gifts they have given
to their wives except in the case of the wife choosing to dissolve the
marriage:
"It is not lawful for you (Men) to
take back any of your gifts except when both parties fear that they would
be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah. There is no blame on either
of them if she give something for her freedom. These are the limits ordained
by Allah so do not transgress them" (2:229).
In some cases, A Muslim wife might be willing
to keep her marriage but find herself obliged to claim for a divorce because
of some compelling reasons such as: Cruelty of the husband, desertion without
a reason, a husband not fulfilling his conjugal responsibilities, etc.
In these cases the Muslim court dissolves the marriage. 37
In short, Islam has offered the Muslim
woman some unequalled rights: she can end the marriage through Khula' and
she can sue for a divorce. A Muslim wife can never become chained by a
recalcitrant husband. It was these rights that enticed Jewish women who
lived in the early Islamic societies of the seventh century C.E. to seek
to obtain bills of divorce from their Jewish husbands in Muslim courts.
The Rabbis declared these bills null and void. In order to end this practice,
the Rabbis gave new rights and privileges to Jewish women in an attempt
to weaken the appeal of the Muslim courts. Jewish women living in Christian
countries were not offered any similar privileges since the Roman law of
divorce practiced there was no more attractive than the Jewish law. 38
Let us now focus our attention on how Islam
discourages divorce. A Muslim man should not divorce his wife just because
he dislikes her. The Quran instructs Muslim men to be kind to their wives
even in cases of lukewarm emotions or feelings of dislike:
"Live with them (your wives) on a
footing of kindness and equity. If you dislike them it may be that you
dislike something in which Allah has placed a great deal of good" (4:19).
However, Islam is a practical religion
and it does recognize that there are circumstances in which a marriage
becomes on the verge of collapsing. In such cases, a mere advice of kindness
or self restraint is no viable solution. So, what to do in order to save
a marriage in these cases? The Quran offers some practical advice for the
spouse (husband or wife) whose partner (wife or husband) is the wrongdoer.
For the husband whose wife's ill-conduct is threatening the marriage, the
Quran gives four types of advice as detailed in the following verses:
"As to those women on whose part
you fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, (1) Admonish them, (2) refuse to share
their beds, (3) beat them; but if they return to obedience seek not against
them means of annoyance: For Allah is Most High, Great. (4) If you fear
a break between them, appoint two arbiters, one from his family and the
other from hers; If they wish for peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation"
(4:34-35).
The first three are to be tried first.
If they fail, then the help of the families concerned should be sought.
It has to be noted, in the light of the above verses, that beating the
rebellious wife is a temporary measure that is resorted to as third in
line in cases of extreme necessity in hopes that it might remedy the wrongdoing
of the wife. If it does, the husband is not allowed by any means to continue
any annoyance to the wife as explicitly mentioned in the verse. If it does
not, the husband is still not allowed to use this measure any longer and
the final avenue of the family-assisted reconciliation has to be explored.
It has to be noted that the Talmud sanctions
wife beating as chastisement for the purpose of discipline. 39 The husband
is not restricted to the extreme cases such as those of open lewdness.
He is allowed to beat his wife even if she just refuses to do her house
work. Moreover, he is not limited only to the use of light punishment.
He is permitted to break his wife's stubbornness by the lash or by starving
her. 40
For the wife whose husband's ill-conduct
is the cause for the marriage's near collapse, the Quran offers the following
advice:
"If a wife fears cruelty or desertion
on her husband's part, there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable
settlement between themselves; and such settlement is best" (4:128).
In this case, the wife is advised to seek
reconciliation with her husband (with or without family assistance). It
is notable that the Quran is not advising the wife to resort to the two
measures of abstention from sex and beating. The reason for this disparity
might be to protect the wife from a violent physical reaction by her already
misbehaving husband. Such a violent physical reaction will do both the
wife and the marriage more harm than good. Some Muslim scholars have suggested
that the court can apply these measures against the husband on the wife's
behalf. That is, the court first admonishes the rebellious husband, then
forbids him his wife's bed, and finally executes a symbolic beating. 41
To sum up, Islam offers Muslim married
couples much viable advice to save their marriages in cases of trouble
and tension. If one of the partners is jeopardizing the matrimonial relationship,
the other partner is advised by the Quran to do whatever possible and effective
in order to save this sacred bond. If all the measures fail, Islam allows
the partners to separate peacefully and amicably.
12. MOTHERS
The Old Testament in several places commands
kind and considerate treatment of the parents and condemns those who dishonor
them. For example, "If anyone curses his father or mother, he must be put
to death" (Lev. 20:9) and "A wise man brings joy to his father but a foolish
man despises his mother" (Proverbs 15:20). Although honoring the father
alone is mentioned in some places, e.g. "A wise man heeds his father's
instruction" (Proverbs 13:1), the mother alone is never mentioned. Moreover,
there is no special emphasis on treating the mother kindly as a sign of
appreciation of her great suffering in childbearing and suckling. Besides,
mothers do not inherit at all from their children while fathers do. 42
It is difficult to speak of the New Testament
as a scripture that calls for honoring the mother. To the contrary, one
gets the impression that the New Testament considers kind treatment of
mothers as an impediment on the way to God. According to the New Testament,
one cannot become a good Christian worthy of becoming a disciple of Christ
unless he hates his mother. It is attributed to Jesus to have said:
"If anyone comes to me and does not
hate his father and mother, his wife and children, his brothers and sisters--yes,
even his own life--he can not be my disciple" (Luke 14:26).
Furthermore, the New Testament depicts
a picture of Jesus as indifferent to, or even disrespectful of, his own
mother. For example, when she had come looking for him while he was preaching
to a crowd, he did not care to go out to see her:
"Then Jesus' mother and brothers
arrived. Standing outside, they sent someone to call him. A crowd was sitting
around him and they told him, 'Your mother and brothers are outside looking
for you.' 'Who are my mother and my brothers?' he asked. Then he looked
at those seated in a circle around him and said,' Here are my mother and
my brothers! Whoever does God's will is my brother and sister and mother.'
" (Mark 3:31-35)
One might argue that Jesus was trying to
teach his audience an important lesson that religious ties are no less
important than family ties. However, he could have taught his listeners
the same lesson without showing such absolute indifference to his mother.
The same disrespectful attitude is depicted when he refused to endorse
a statement made by a member of his audience blessing his mother's role
in giving birth to him and nursing him:
"As Jesus was saying these things,
a woman in the crowd called out, 'Blessed is the mother who gave you birth
and nursed you.' He replied, 'Blessed rather are those who hear the word
of God and obey it.' " (Luke 11:27-28)
If a mother with the stature of the virgin
Mary had been treated with such discourtesy, as depicted in the New Testament,
by a son of the stature of Jesus Christ, then how should an average Christian
mother be treated by her average Christian sons?
In Islam, the honor, respect, and esteem
attached to motherhood is unparalleled. The Quran places the importance
of kindness to parents as second only to worshipping God Almighty:
"Your Lord has decreed that you worship
none but Him, And that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them
attain old age in your life, Say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel
them, But address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, Lower to
them the wing of humility, and say: 'My Lord! bestow on them Your Mercy
as they Cherished me in childhood' " (17:23-24).
The Quran in several other places puts
special emphasis on the mother's great role in giving birth and nursing:
"And We have enjoined on man to be
good to his parents: In travail upon travail did his mother bear him and
in two years was his weaning. Show gratitude to Me and to your parents"
(31:14).
Among the few precepts of Islam which Muslims
still faithfully observe to the present day is the considerate treatment
of mothers. The honor that Muslim mothers receive from their sons and daughters
is exemplary. The intensely warm relations between Muslim mothers and their
children and the deep respect with which Muslim men approach their mothers
usually amaze Westerners. 43
13. FEMALE
INHERITANCE ?
One of the most important differences between
the Quran and the Bible is their attitude towards female inheritance of
the property of a deceased relative. The Biblical attitude has been succinctly
described by Rabbi Epstein: "The continuous and unbroken tradition since
the Biblical days gives the female members of the household, wife and daughters,
no right of succession to the family estate. In the more primitive scheme
of succession, the female members of the family were considered part of
the estate and as remote from the legal personality of an heir as the slave.
Whereas by Mosaic enactment the daughters were admitted to succession in
the event of no male issue remained, the wife was not recognized as heir
even in such conditions." 44 Why were the female members of the family
considered part of the family estate? Rabbi Epstein has the answer: "They
are owned --before marriage, by the father; after marriage, by the husband."
45
The Biblical rules of inheritance are outlined
in Numbers 27:1-11. A wife is given no share in her husband's estate, while
he is her first heir, even before her sons. A daughter can inherit only
if no male heirs exist. A mother is not an heir at all while the father
is. Widows and daughters, in case male children remained, were at the mercy
of the male heirs for provision. That is why widows and orphan girls were
among the most destitute members of the Jewish society.
Christianity has followed suit for long
time. Both the ecclesiastical and civil laws of Christendom barred daughters
from sharing with their brothers in the father's patrimony. Besides, wives
were deprived of any inheritance rights. These iniquitous laws survived
till late in the last century46.
Among the pagan Arabs before Islam, inheritance
rights were confined exclusively to the male relatives. The Quran abolished
all these unjust customs and gave all the female relatives inheritance
shares:
"From what is left by parents and
those nearest related there is a share for men and a share for women, whether
the property be small or large --a determinate share" (4:7).
Muslim mothers, wives, daughters, and sisters
had received inheritance rights thirteen hundred years before Europe recognized
that these rights even existed. The division of inheritance is a vast subject
with an enormous amount of details (4:7,11,12,176). The general rule is
that the female share is half the male's except the cases in which the
mother receives equal share to that of the father. This general rule if
taken in isolation from other legislations concerning men and women may
seem unfair. In order to understand the rationale behind this rule, one
must take into account the fact that the financial obligations of men in
Islam far exceed those of women (see the "Wife's property?" section). A
bridegroom must provide his bride with a marriage gift. This gift becomes
her exclusive property and remains so even if she is later divorced. The
bride is under no obligation to present any gifts to her groom. Moreover,
the Muslim husband is charged with the maintenance of his wife and children.
The wife, on the other hand, is not obliged to help him in this regard.
Her property and earnings are for her use alone except what she may voluntarily
offer her husband. Besides, one has to realize that Islam vehemently advocates
family life. It strongly encourages youth to get married, discourages divorce,
and does not regard celibacy as a virtue. Therefore, in a truly Islamic
society, family life is the norm and single life is the rare exception.
That is, almost all marriage-aged women and men are married in an Islamic
society. In light of these facts, one would appreciate that Muslim men,
in general, have greater financial burdens than Muslim women and thus inheritance
rules are meant to offset this imbalance so that the society lives free
of all gender or class wars. After a simple comparison between the financial
rights and duties of Muslim women, one British Muslim woman has concluded
that Islam has treated women not only fairly but generously. 47
14. PLIGHT
OF WIDOWS
Because of the fact that the Old Testament
recognized no inheritance rights to them, widows were among the most vulnerable
of the Jewish population. The male relatives who inherited all of a woman's
deceased husband's estate were to provide for her from that estate. However,
widows had no way to ensure this provision was carried out, and lived on
the mercy of others. Therefore, widows were among the lowest classes in
ancient Israel and widowhood was considered a symbol of great degradation
(Isaiah 54:4). But the plight of a widow in the Biblical tradition extended
even beyond her exclusion from her husband's property. According to Genesis
38, a childless widow must marry her husband's brother, even if he is already
married, so that he can produce offspring for his dead brother, thus ensuring
his brother's name will not die out.
"Then Judah said to Onan, 'Lie with
your brother's wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to
produce offspring for your brother' " (Genesis 38:8).
The widow's consent to this marriage is
not required. The widow is treated as part of her deceased husband's property
whose main function is to ensure her husband's posterity. This Biblical
law is still practiced in today's Israel. 48 A childless widow in Israel
is bequeathed to her husband's brother. If the brother is too young to
marry, she has to wait until he comes of age. Should the deceased husband's
brother refuse to marry her, she is set free and can then marry any man
of her choice. It is not an uncommon phenomenon in Israel that widows are
subjected to blackmail by their brothers-in-law in order to gain their
freedom.
The pagan Arabs before Islam had similar
practices. A widow was considered a part of her husband's property to be
inherited by his male heirs and she was, usually, given in marriage to
the deceased man's eldest son from another wife. The Quran scathingly attacked
and abolished this degrading custom:
"And marry not women whom your fathers
married--Except what is past-- it was shameful, odious, and abominable
custom indeed" (4:22).
Widows and divorced women were so looked
down upon in the Biblical tradition that the high priest could not marry
a widow, a divorced woman, or a prostitute:
"The woman he (the high priest) marries
must be a virgin. He must not marry a widow, a divorced woman, or a woman
defiled by prostitution, but only a virgin from his own people, so he will
not defile his offspring among his people" (Lev. 21:13-15)
In Israel today, a descendant of the Cohen
caste (the high priests of the days of the Temple) cannot marry a divorcee,
a widow, or a prostitute. 49 In the Jewish legislation, a woman who has
been widowed three times with all the three husbands dying of natural causes
is considered 'fatal' and forbidden to marry again. 50 The Quran, on the
other hand, recognizes neither castes nor fatal persons. Widows and divorcees
have the freedom to marry whomever they choose. There is no stigma attached
to divorce or widowhood in the Quran:
"When you divorce women and they
fulfill their terms [three menstruation periods] either take them back on
equitable terms or set them free on equitable terms; But do not take them
back to injure them or to take undue advantage, If anyone does that, he
wrongs his own soul. Do not treat Allah's signs as a jest" (2:231).
"If any of you die and leave widows
behind, they shall wait four months and ten days. When they have fulfilled
their term, there is no blame on you if they dispose of themselves in a
just manner" (2:234).
"Those of you who die and leave widows
should bequeath for their widows a year's maintenance and residence. But
if they [the widows] leave (the residence) there is no blame on you for
what they justly do with themselves" (2:240).
15. POLYGAMY
Let us now tackle the important question
of polygamy. Polygamy is a very ancient practice found in many human societies.
The Bible did not condemn polygamy. To the contrary, the Old Testament
and Rabbinic writings frequently attest to the legality of polygamy. King
Solomon is said to have had 700 wives and 300 concubines (1 Kings 11:3)
Also, king David is said to have had many wives and concubines (2 Samuel
5:13). The Old Testament does have some injunctions on how to distribute
the property of a man among his sons from different wives (Deut. 22:7).
The only restriction on polygamy is a ban on taking a wife's sister as
a rival wife (Lev. 18:18). The Talmud advises a maximum of four wives.
51 European Jews continued to practice polygamy until the sixteenth century.
Oriental Jews regularly practiced polygamy until they arrived in Israel
where it is forbidden under civil law. However, under religious law which
overrides civil law in such cases, it is permissible. 52
What about the New Testament? According
to Father Eugene Hillman in his insightful book, Polygamy reconsidered,
"Nowhere in the New Testament is there any explicit commandment that marriage
should be monogamous or any explicit commandment forbidding polygamy."
53 Moreover, Jesus has not spoken against polygamy though it was practiced
by the Jews of his society. Father Hillman stresses the fact that the Church
in Rome banned polygamy in order to conform to the Greco-Roman culture
(which prescribed only one legal wife while tolerating concubinage and
prostitution). He cited St. Augustine, "Now indeed in our time, and in
keeping with Roman custom, it is no longer allowed to take another wife."
54 African churches and African Christians often remind their European
brothers that the Church's ban on polygamy is a cultural tradition and
not an authentic Christian injunction.
The Quran, too, allowed polygamy, but not
without restrictions:
"If you fear that you shall not be
able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two or
three or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly
with them, then only one" (4:3).
The Quran, contrary to the Bible, limited
the maximum number of wives to four under the strict condition of treating
the wives equally and justly. It should not be understood that the Quran
is exhorting the believers to practice polygamy, or that polygamy is considered
as an ideal. In other words, the Quran has "tolerated" or "allowed" polygamy,
and no more, but why? Why is polygamy permissible ? The answer is simple:
there are places and times in which there are compelling social and moral
reasons for polygamy. As the above Quranic verse indicates, the issue of
polygamy in Islam cannot be understood apart from community obligations
towards orphans and widows. Islam as a universal religion suitable for
all places and all times could not ignore these compelling obligations.
In most human societies, females outnumber
males. In the U.S. there are, at least, eight million more women than men.
In a country like Guinea there are 122 females for every 100 males. In
Tanzania, there are 95.1 males per 100 females. 55 What should a society
do towards such unbalanced sex ratios? There are various solutions, some
might suggest celibacy, others would prefer female infanticide (which does
happen in some societies in the world today !). Others may think the only
outlet is that the society should tolerate all manners of sexual permissiveness:
prostitution, sex out of wedlock, homosexuality, etc. For other
societies , like most African societies today, the most honorable outlet
is to allow polygamous marriage as a culturally accepted and socially respected
institution. The point that is often misunderstood in the West is that
women in other cultures do not necessarily look at polygamy as a sign of
women's degradation. For example, many young African brides , whether Christians
or Muslims or otherwise, would prefer to marry a married man who has already
proved himself to be a responsible husband. Many African wives urge their
husbands to get a second wife so that they do not feel lonely. 56 A survey
of over six thousand women, ranging in age from 15 to 59, conducted in
the second largest city in Nigeria showed that 60 percent of these women
would be pleased if their husbands took another wife. Only 23 percent expressed
anger at the idea of sharing with another wife. Seventy-six percent of
the women in a survey conducted in Kenya viewed polygamy positively. In
a survey undertaken in rural Kenya, 25 out of 27 women considered polygamy
to be better than monogamy. These women felt polygamy can be a happy and
beneficial experience if the co-wives cooperate with each other. 57 Polygamy
in most African societies is such a respectable institution that some Protestant
churches are becoming more tolerant of it. A bishop of the Anglican Church
in Kenya declared that, "Although monogamy may be ideal for the expression
of love between husband and wife, the church should consider that in certain
cultures polygon is socially acceptable and that the belief that polygymy
is contrary to Christianity is no longer tenable." 58 After a careful study
of African polygamy, Reverend David Gitari of the Anglican Church has concluded
that polygamy, as ideally practiced, is more Christian than divorce and
remarriage as far as the abandoned wives and children are concerned. 59
I personally know of some highly educated African wives who, despite having
lived in the West for many years, do not have any objections against polygamy.
One of them, who lives in the U.S., solemnly exhorts her husband to get
a second wife to help her in raising the kids.
The problem of the unbalanced sex ratios
becomes truly problematic at times of war. Native American Indian tribes
used to suffer highly unbalanced sex ratios after wartime losses. Women
in these tribes, who in fact enjoyed a fairly high status, accepted polygamy
as the best protection against indulgence in indecent activities. European
settlers, without offering any other alternative, condemned this Indian
polygamy as 'uncivilized'. 60 After the second world war, there were 7,300,000
more women than men in Germany (3.3 million of them were widows). There
were 100 men aged 20 to 30 for every 167 women in that age group. 61 Many
of these women needed a man not only as a companion but also as a provider
for the household in a time of unprecedented misery and hardship. The soldiers
of the victorious Allied Armies exploited these women's vulnerability.
Many young girls and widows had liaisons with members of the occupying
forces. Many American and British soldiers paid for their pleasures in
cigarettes, chocolate, and bread. Children were overjoyed at the gifts
these strangers brought. A 10 year old boy on hearing of such gifts from
other children wished from all his heart for an 'Englishman' for his mother
so that she need not go hungry any longer. 62 We have to ask our own conscience
at this point: What is more dignifying to a woman? An accepted and respected
second wife as in the native Indians' approach, or a virtual prostitute
as in the 'civilized' Allies approach? In other words, what is more dignifying
to a woman, the Quranic prescription or the theology based on the culture
of the Roman Empire?
It is interesting to note that in an international
youth conference held in Munich in 1948 the problem of the highly unbalanced
sex ratio in Germany was discussed. When it became clear that no solution
could be agreed upon, some participants suggested polygamy. The initial
reaction of the gathering was a mixture of shock and disgust. However,
after a careful study of the proposal, the participants agreed that it
was the only possible solution. Consequently, polygamy was included among
the conference final recommendations. 63
The world today possesses more weapons
of mass destruction than ever before and the European churches might, sooner
or later, be obliged to accept polygamy as the only way out. Father Hillman
has thoughtfully recognized this fact, "It is quite conceivable that these
genocidal techniques (nuclear, biological, chemical..) could produce so
drastic an imbalance among the sexes that plural marriage would become
a necessary means of survival....Then contrary to previous custom and law,
an overriding natural and moral inclination might arise in favor of polygamy.
In such a situation, theologians and church leaders would quickly produce
weighty reasons and biblical texts to justify a new conception of marriage."
64
To the present day, polygamy continues
to be a viable solution to some of the social ills of modern societies.
The communal obligations that the Quran mentions in association with the
permission of polygamy are more visible at present in some Western societies
than in Africa. For example, In the United States today, there is a severe
gender crisis in the black community. One out of every twenty young black
males may die before reaching the age of 21. For those between 20 and 35
years of age, homicide is the leading cause of death. 65 Besides, many
young black males are unemployed, in jail, or on dope. 66 As a result,
one in four black women, at age 40, has never married, as compared with
one in ten white women. 67 Moreover, many young black females become single
mothers before the age of 20 and find themselves in need of providers.
The end result of these tragic circumstances is that an increasing number
of black women are engaged in what is called 'man-sharing'. 68 That is,
many of these hapless single black women are involved in affairs with married
men. The wives are often unaware of the fact that other women are 'sharing'
their husbands with them. Some observers of the crisis of man-sharing in
the African American community strongly recommend consensual polygamy as
a temporary answer to the shortage of black males until more comprehensive
reforms in the American society at large are undertaken. 69 By consensual
polygamy they mean a polygamy that is sanctioned by the community and to
which all the parties involved have agreed, as opposed to the usually secret
man-sharing which is detrimental both to the wife and to the community
in general. The problem of man-sharing in the African American community
was the topic of a panel discussion held at Temple University in Philadelphia
on January 27, 1993. 70 Some of the speakers recommended polygamy as one
potential remedy for the crisis. They also suggested that polygamy should
not be banned by law, particularly in a society that tolerates prostitution
and mistresses. The comment of one woman from the audience that African
Americans needed to learn from Africa where polygamy was responsibly practiced
elicited enthusiastic applause.
Philip Kilbride, an American anthropologist
of Roman Catholic heritage, in his provocative book, Plural marriage for
our time, proposes polygamy as a solution to some of the ills of the American
society at large. He argues that plural marriage may serve as a potential
alternative for divorce in many cases in order to obviate the damaging
impact of divorce on many children. He maintains that many divorces are
caused by the rampant extramarital affairs in the American society. According
to Kilbride, ending an extramarital affair in a polygamous marriage, rather
than in a divorce, is better for the children, "Children would be better
served if family augmentation rather than only separation and dissolution
were seen as options." Moreover, he suggests that other groups will also
benefit from plural marriage such as: elderly women who face a chronic
shortage of men and the African Americans who are involved in man-sharing.
71
In 1987, a poll conducted by the student
newspaper at the university of California at Berkeley asked the students
whether they agreed that men should be allowed by law to have more than
one wife in response to a perceived shortage of male marriage candidates
in California. Almost all of the students polled approved of the idea.
One female student even stated that a polygamous marriage would fulfill
her emotional and physical needs while giving her greater freedom than
a monogamous union. 72 In fact, this same argument is also used by the
few remaining fundamentalist Mormon women who still practice polygamy in
the U.S. They believe that polygamy is an ideal way for a woman to have
both a career and children since the wives help each other care for the
children. 73
It has to be added that polygamy in Islam
is a matter of mutual consent. No one can force a woman to marry a married
man. Besides, the wife has the right to stipulate that her husband must
not marry any other woman as a second wife. 74 The Bible, on the other
hand, sometimes resorts to forcible polygamy. A childless widow must marry
her husband's brother, even if he is already married (see the "Plight of
Widows" section), regardless of her consent (Genesis 38:8-10).
It should be noted that in many Muslim
societies today the practice of polygamy is rare since the gap between
the numbers of both sexes is not huge. One can, safely, say that the rate
of polygamous marriages in the Muslim world is much less than the rate
of extramarital affairs in the West. In other words, men in the Muslim
world today are far more strictly monogamous than men in the Western world.
Billy Graham, the eminent Christian evangelist
has recognized this fact: "Christianity cannot compromise on the question
of polygamy. If present-day Christianity cannot do so, it is to its own
detriment. Islam has permitted polygamy as a solution to social ills and
has allowed a certain degree of latitude to human nature but only within
the strictly defined framework of the law. Christian countries make a great
show of monogamy, but actually they practice polygamy. No one is unaware
of the part mistresses play in Western society. In this respect Islam is
a fundamentally honest religion, and permits a Muslim to marry a second
wife if he must, but strictly forbids all clandestine amatory associations
in order to safeguard the moral probity of the community." 75
It is of interest to note that many, non-Muslim
as well as Muslim, countries in the world today have outlawed polygamy.
Taking a second wife, even with the free consent of the first wife, is
a violation of the law. On the other hand, cheating on the wife, without
her knowledge or consent, is perfectly legitimate as far as the law is
concerned! What is the legal wisdom behind such a contradiction? Is the
law designed to reward deception and punish honesty? It is one of the unfathomable
paradoxes of our modern 'civilized' world.
16. THE
VEIL
Finally, let us shed some light on what
is considered in the West as the greatest symbol of women's oppression
and servitude, the veil or the head cover. Is it true that there is no
such thing as the veil in the Judaeo-Christian tradition? Let us set the
record straight. According to Rabbi Dr. Menachem M. Brayer (Professor of
Biblical Literature at Yeshiva University) in his book, The Jewish woman
in Rabbinic literature, it was the custom of Jewish women to go out in
public with a head covering which, sometimes, even covered the whole face
leaving one eye free. 76 He quotes some famous ancient Rabbis saying,"
It is not like the daughters of Israel to walk out with heads uncovered"
and "Cursed be the man who lets the hair of his wife be seen....a woman
who exposes her hair for self-adornment brings poverty." Rabbinic law forbids
the recitation of blessings or prayers in the presence of a bareheaded
married woman since uncovering the woman's hair is considered "nudity".77
Dr. Brayer also mentions that "During the Tannaitic period the Jewish woman's
failure to cover her head was considered an affront to her modesty. When
her head was uncovered she might be fined four hundred zuzim for this offense."
Dr. Brayer also explains that veil of the Jewish woman was not always considered
a sign of modesty. Sometimes, the veil symbolized a state of distinction
and luxury rather than modesty. The veil personified the dignity and superiority
of noble women. It also represented a woman's inaccessibility as a sanctified
possession of her husband. 78
The veil signified a woman's self-respect
and social status. Women of lower classes would often wear the veil to
give the impression of a higher standing. The fact that the veil was the
sign of nobility was the reason why prostitutes were not permitted to cover
their hair in the old Jewish society. However, prostitutes often wore a
special headscarf in order to look respectable. 79 Jewish women in Europe
continued to wear veils until the nineteenth century when their lives became
more intermingled with the surrounding secular culture. The external pressures
of the European life in the nineteenth century forced many of them to go
out bare-headed. Some Jewish women found it more convenient to replace
their traditional veil with a wig as another form of hair covering. Today,
most pious Jewish women do not cover their hair except in the synagogue.
80 Some of them, such as the Hasidic sects, still use the wig. 81
What about the Christian tradition? It
is well known that Catholic Nuns have been covering their heads for hundreds
of years, but that is not all. St. Paul in the New Testament made some
very interesting statements about the veil:
"Now I want you to realize that the
head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the
head of Christ is God. Every man who prays or prophesies with his head
covered dishonors his head. And every woman who prays or prophesies with
her head uncovered dishonors her head - it is just as though her head
were shaved. If a woman does not cover her head, she should have her hair
cut off; and if it is a disgrace for a woman to have her hair cut off or
shaved off, she should cover her head. A man ought not to cover his head,
since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man.
For man did not come from woman, but woman from man; neither was man created
for woman, but woman for man. For this reason, and because of the angels,
the woman ought to have a sign of authority on her head" (I Corinthians
11:3-10).
St. Paul's rationale for veiling women
is that the veil represents a sign of the authority of the man, who is
the image and glory of God, over the woman who was created from and for
man. St. Tertullian in his famous treatise 'On The Veiling Of Virgins'
wrote, "Young women, you wear your veils out on the streets, so you should
wear them in the church, you wear them when you are among strangers, then
wear them among your brothers..." Among the Canon laws of the Catholic
church today, there is a law that requires women to cover their heads in
church. 82 Some Christian denominations, such as the Amish and the Mennonites
for example, keep their women veiled to the present day. The reason for
the veil, as offered by their Church leaders, is that "The head covering
is a symbol of woman's subjection to the man and to God", which is the
same logic introduced by St. Paul in the New Testament. 83
17. EPILOGUE
The one question all the non-Muslims, who
had read an earlier version of this study, had in common was: do Muslim
women in the Muslim world today receive this noble treatment described
here? The answer, unfortunately, is: No. Since this question is inevitable
in any discussion concerning the status of women in Islam, we have to elaborate
on the answer in order to provide the reader with the complete picture.
It has to be made clear first that the
vast differences among Muslim societies make most generalizations too simplistic.
There is a wide spectrum of attitudes towards women in the Muslim world
today. These attitudes differ from one society to another and within each
individual society. Nevertheless, certain general trends are discernible.
Almost all Muslim societies have, to one degree or another, deviated from
the ideals of Islam with respect to the status of women. These deviations
have, for the most part, been in one of two opposite directions. The first
direction is more conservative, restrictive, and traditions-oriented, while
the second is more liberal and Western-oriented.
The societies that have digressed in the
first direction treat women according to the customs and traditions inherited
from their forebears. These traditions usually deprive women of many rights
granted to them by Islam. Besides, women are treated according to standards
far different from those applied to men. This discrimination pervades the
life of any female: she is received with less joy at birth than a boy;
she is less likely to go to school; she might be deprived any share of
her family's inheritance; she is under continuous surveillance in order
not to behave immodestly while her brother's immodest acts are tolerated;
she might even be killed for committing what her male family members usually
boast of doing; she has very little say in family affairs or community
interests; she might not have full control over her property and her marriage
gifts; and finally as a mother she herself would prefer to produce boys
so that she can attain a higher status in her community.
On the other hand, there are Muslim societies
(or certain classes within some societies) that have been swept over by
the Western culture and way of life. These societies often imitate unthinkingly
whatever they receive from the West and usually end up adopting the worst
fruits of Western civilization. In these societies, a typical "modern"
woman's top priority in life is to enhance her physical beauty. Therefore,
she is often obsessed with her body's shape, size, and weight. She tends
to care more about her body than her mind and more about her charms than
her intellect. Her ability to charm, attract, and excite is more valued
in the society than her educational achievements, intellectual pursuits,
and social work. One is not expected to find a copy of the Quran in her
purse since it is full of cosmetics that accompany her wherever she goes.
Her spirituality has no room in a society preoccupied with her attractiveness.
Therefore, she would spend her life striving more to realize her femininity
than to fulfill her humanity.
Why did Muslim societies deviate from the
ideals of Islam? There is no easy answer. A penetrating explanation of
the reasons why Muslims have not adhered to the Quranic guidance with respect
to women would be beyond the scope of this study. It has to be made clear,
however, that Muslim societies have deviated from the Islamic precepts
concerning so many aspects of their lives for so long. There is a wide
gap between what Muslims are supposed to believe in and what they actually
practice. This gap is not a recent phenomenon. It has been there for centuries
and has been widening day after day. This ever widening gap has had disastrous
consequences on the Muslim world manifested in almost all aspects of life:
political tyranny and fragmentation, economic backwardness, social injustice,
scientific bankruptcy, intellectual stagnation, etc. The non-Islamic
status of women in the Muslim world today is merely a symptom of a deeper
malady. Any reform in the current status of Muslim women is not expected
to be fruitful if not accompanied with more comprehensive reforms of the
Muslim societies' whole way of life. The Muslim world is in need for a
renaissance that will bring it closer to the ideals of Islam and not further
from them. To sum up, the notion that the poor status of Muslim women today
is because of Islam is an utter misconception. The problems of Muslims
in general are not due to too much attachment to Islam, they are the culmination
of a long and deep detachment from it.
It has, also, to be re-emphasized that
the purpose behind this comparative study is not, by any means, to defame
Judaism or Christianity. The position of women in the Judea-Christian
tradition might seem frightening by our late twentieth century standards.
Nevertheless, it has to be viewed within the proper historical context.
In other words, any objective assessment of the position of women in the
Judea-Christian tradition has to take into account the historical circumstances
in which this tradition developed. There can be no doubt that the views
of the Rabbis and the Church Fathers regarding women were influenced by
the prevalent attitudes towards women in their societies. The Bible itself
was written by different authors at different times. These authors could
not have been impervious to the values and the way of life of the people
around them. For example, the adultery laws of the Old Testament are so
biased against women that they defy rational explanation by our mentality.
However, if we consider the fact that the early Jewish tribes were obsessed
with their genetic homogeneity and extremely eager to define themselves
apart from the surrounding tribes and that only sexual misconduct by the
married females of the tribes could threaten these cherished aspirations,
we should then be able to understand, but not necessarily sympathize with,
the reasons for this bias. Also, the diatribes of the Church Fathers against
women should not be detached from the context of the misogynist Greco-Roman
culture in which they lived. It would be unfair to evaluate the Judea-Christian
legacy without giving any consideration to the relevant historical context.
In fact, a proper understanding of the
Judea-Christian historical context is also crucial for understanding the
significance of the contributions of Islam to world history and human civilization.
The Judea-Christian tradition had been influenced and shaped by the environments,
conditions, and cultures in which it had existed. By the seventh century
C.E., this influence had distorted the original divine message revealed
to Moses and Jesus beyond recognition. The poor status of women in the
Judea-Christian world by the seventh century is just one case in point.
Therefore, there was a great need for a new divine message that would guide
humanity back to the straight path. The Quran described the mission of
the new Messenger as a release for Jews and Christians from the heavy burdens
that had been upon them: "Those who follow the Messenger, the unlettered
Prophet, whom they find mentioned in their own Scriptures--In the Law and
the Gospel-- For he commands them what is just and forbids them what is
evil; he allows them as lawful what is good and prohibits them from what
is bad; He releases them from their heavy burdens and from the yokes that
are upon them" (7:157).
Therefore, Islam should not be viewed as
a rival tradition to Judaism or Christianity. It has to be regarded as
the consummation, completion, and perfection of the divine messages that
had been revealed before it.
At the end of this study, I would like
to offer the following advice to the global Muslim community. So many Muslim
women have been denied their basic Islamic rights for so long. The mistakes
of the past have to be corrected. To do that is not a favor, it is a duty
incumbent upon all Muslims. The worldwide Muslim community have to issue
a charter of Muslim women's rights based on the instructions of the Quran.
This charter must give Muslim women all the rights endowed to them by their
Creator. Then, all the necessary means have to be developed in order to
ensure the proper implementation of the charter. This charter is long overdue,
but it is better late than never. If Muslims worldwide will not guarantee
the full Islamic rights of their mothers, wives, sisters, and daughters,
who else will ?
Furthermore, we must have the courage to
confront our past and reject outright the traditions and customs of our
forefathers whenever they contravene the precepts of Islam. Did the Quran
not severely criticize the pagan Arabs for blindly following the traditions
of their ancestors? On the other hand, we have to develop a critical attitude
towards whatever we receive from the West or from any other culture. Interaction
with and learning from other cultures is an invaluable experience. The
Quran has succinctly considered this interaction as one of the purposes
of creation: " O mankind We created you from a single pair of a male and
a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know each
other" (49:13). It goes without saying, however, that blind imitation of
others is a sure sign of an utter lack of self-esteem.
It is to the non-Muslim reader, Jewish,
Christian, or otherwise, that these final words are dedicated. It is bewildering
why the religion that had revolutionized the status of women is being singled
out and denigrated as so repressive of women. This perception about Islam
is one of the most widespread myths in our world today. This myth is being
perpetuated by a ceaseless barrage of sensational books, articles, media
images, and Hollywood movies. The inevitable outcome of these incessant
misleading images has been total misunderstanding and fear of anything
related to Islam. This negative portrayal of Islam in the world media has
to end if we are to live in a world free from all traces of discrimination,
prejudice, and misunderstanding. Non-Muslims ought to realize the existence
of a wide gap between Muslims' beliefs and practices and the simple fact
that the actions of Muslims do not necessarily represent Islam. To label
the status of women in the Muslim world today as "Islamic" is as far from
the truth as labeling the position of women in the West today as "Judea-Christian".
With this understanding in mind, Muslims and non-Muslims should start a
process of communication and dialogue in order to remove all misconceptions,
suspicions, and fears. A peaceful future for the human family necessitates
such a dialogue.
Islam should be viewed as a religion that
had immensely improved the status of women and had granted them many rights
that the modern world has recognized only this century. Islam still has
so much to offer today's woman: dignity, respect, and protection in all
aspects and all stages of her life from birth until death in addition to
the recognition, the balance, and means for the fulfillment of all her spiritual,
intellectual, physical, and emotional needs. No wonder most of those who
choose to become Muslims in a country like Britain are women. In the U.S.
women converts to Islam outnumber male converts 4 to 1. 85 Islam has so
much to offer our world which is in great need of moral guidance and leadership.
Ambassador Herman Eilts, in a testimony in front of the committee on Foreign
Affairs of the House of Representatives of the United States Congress on
June 24th, 1985, said, "The Muslim community of the globe today is in the
neighborhood of one billion. That is an impressive figure. But what to
me is equally impressive is that Islam today is the fastest growing monotheistic
religion. This is something we have to take into account. Something is
right about Islam. It is attracting a good many people." Yes, something
is right about Islam and it is time to find that out. I hope this study
is a step on this direction. |